One of my college batchmates (I can’t remember who) once told me that he/she noticed how all of his/her gay friends don’t have long romantic relationships with their respective partners. I think I was blabbering about gay couples that I find inspiring at that time, and this friend of mine just squeezed in his/her little “trivia” matter-of-factly.
While the statement was couched in the language based on raw observation, I can’t help but notice its underlying meaning, my batchmate’s belied doubts on the LGBTQ community members’ ability to build serious and lasting relationships. In effect, he/she presented the "statistics" as a way of saying same-sex relationships don’t work.
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I can’t remember why I didn’t explode right then and there—I guess I didn’t want to offend him/her or something—but I did implode. One of the few things I really despise is when people become so quick to judge you or cage you in a stereotype based on unreliable proofs. Suddenly, my head filled up with names of straight couples whose marriages didn’t last (hint: one pair didn’t even last for 24 hours—hello, showbiz!) and names of gay couples who are currently adding more years to their happy marriages. I’d love to shove my own version of "observation" up his/her face, but I was too irritated to explain it at the time.
Apparently, it doesn’t mean that when you go to college, you become more mature and open-minded. Some people’s mind stay in the gutter. I hope they get it out of there before it’s too late.